Posts made by Ganymede

@LittleLizard said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I can always check, I know i dont have Aflac but there might be a safety net I've missed. Thank you for the advice!

No problem. I'm guessing based on your comments that you live in Washington, and so you get 12 weeks of PFML. Since that's a state benefit, you also may have FMLA leave, which is another 12 weeks. So, I'm guessing you've taken 24 weeks off, which would put you around the 6-month mark for leave.

STD benefits usually last for up to 6 months. After that, you may qualify for LTD. If you have a life insurance policy, a lot of such insurers offer STD and LTD benefits for you and, if you're an employer, the business.

@Macha said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

Which will clearly have to be my first work email of the morning. Because it's not okay to just ignore a medical accommodation like that. It's not.

What exactly is the medical accommodation you are seeking? Their response time could be contingent on that.

@LittleLizard said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

I needed this time to recover. I needed the rest. But it's too costly amd now I need to look at canceling my remaining specialist appointments..

Any chance that you have short-term disability that may kick in? Some employers have that coverage to make sure your absence doesn't hurt it financially, but the policy may extend to cover a portion of your lost income briefly.

@Macha

I won't be, but I know people I know are going to drag me into it.

@Hawksmoor

Sorry, but I'm not going to be the best resource. You may want to reach out to Thenomain.

@Cobalt said in Ruiz:

Just so we’re clear, @reimesu @Ghost @Derp @Ganymede Do me a favor, and don’t come around to any game I run in the future. Because you won’t be welcome.

I mean, I won't if you don't want me to, but what the hell did I do to deserve condemnation?

@Bessarion said in Ruiz:

Is it possible that no one was acting in bad faith there? That no one here is a manipulative mastermind and people are just all fucked up and react to things? Isn't that far more likely?

I concur.

@TNP said in Ruiz:

It's a safe bet that this thread has more posts in it than those made in all other threads combined since The Great Banning. And on that note, I have nothing further to say so shall truly depart and let you all fade into irrelevancy, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing.

I have come to the conclusion that seeking relevancy through either forum is a sign of some underlying mental disturbance.

For the record, though, I'm more concerned about Ruiz being a creeper than anything else being said here. I thought I said it clearly before to Tributary, but I'll say it again: I would be more than happy to work with folks from BMD to identify creepers and predators on games to out them and keep them the fuck out of the hobby.

If BMD folks need information buried somewhere here, just let me know. If I need to go mining for information to identify bad actors, please let me know.

@Macha said in Ruiz:

I have no idea what DARVO even stands for, but you go on and do you.

Apparently, it means "deny, attack, and reverse victim and offender." It's the sort of term that pops up often at Title IX hearings.

As for the 'homophobic shit'. As someone who is part of that group, I have seen is used fairly often by those of the LGBTQ+ community. Including on the Pack wiki page, for a business open to all identities and sexualities.

To me, this is sort of like the black community using the n-word. I don't use the term because it is meant to insinuate that LGBTQ+ members have some sort of illegal or unspoken agenda with the aim of taking over communities, like a criminal organization. I think this is a harmful term to play around with loosely.

@kk said in The Pack Discussion:

I need to make some major changes.

I don't think so. I mean, you meet a lot of good people too. It's not how you go about your business as much as setting limits. I've faith.

@kk said in The Pack Discussion:

I had people tell me if you don't consent will pkill you, that would still show up as a consented to scene.

Lord knows I love you dearly, but somehow you always seem to attract the worst of the worst.

@hobos said in The Pack Discussion:

I think more games could benefit from clearly-delineated xcard systems. Then you wouldn't have a situation like this where a manipulator could potentially later pretend they didn't consent, in order to get someone else in trouble and attempt to misplace blame. Everything could be in some xcard log and simple to know. Not that it's helpful for the situation right now, but that's what I'm taking away.

I like this idea, but I don't think it helps on MUSHes.

There are many reasons why people play along with scenes which end up disturbing or triggering them. For a generation growing up online, I believe newer players are more likely to succumb to 'social pressure' to continue a role-playing scene because 'that's just what you do'. Old shits like me couldn't give two shits about it, but I earnestly believe my online sensibilities are different than those of younger or more recent players.

I've role-played through similar scenes before. Fuck, I grew up playing on Tartarus. I've had rough TS scenes end up becoming character defining (not saying that it was a great way to do it, but here we are). So I'm not going to say people are wrong for engaging in this sort of RP with players they don't know well. But I will say that there are consequences with this kind of RP, so it's probably wise to seriously consider your RP partners. I can say, with some certainty, that this sort of questionable RP happened all the damn time, but it's not a problem because none of the players involved complained.

@hobos said in The Pack Discussion:

I don't see sexual assault in those logs either but I get how the pretense could be triggering to someone exposed to this exact sort of real life trauma.

I see it. Then again, I review Title IX incidents and other police reports.

Look, this is one of the reasons I don't engage with this sort of RP unless it's with someone I've known for a gazillion years. Like consensual hanky-panky I'm good with generally, but this RP is dark, personal, and potentially-triggering.

Could Isaac have been triggered? I can see it. Could he be a controlling, abusive player? I could see that as well, presuming the truth of Macha's interactions with the player.

It bears saying: be careful out there. I know that isn't a fair warning at times, but it holds as a general adage.

@kk

Maybe start here.

https://musoapbox.net/topic/3534/vague-post-like-woah-advice-please/31?page=2

@Jynxbox said in Searching for Star Wars RPI:

That and their Star Wars universe has kaiju that are eating planets.

@Artemis said in Searching for Star Wars RPI:

\I'm not saying the codebase changes the crowd, though it did introduce me to a different side of the hobby, and in turn, new people to the hobby itself, but my point was just that I think the majority of games out currently deserve recognition for good administration.

This was my experience with my first Ares game, and it remains my experience.

However limited Ares might seem, it makes creating a game easy. And I will always promote it -- and @Faraday -- until my face turns blue.

I hope that other games advertise here, so that the word gets out.

@Artemis

I have to admit that they do have better vibes than a lot of older games I've played on.

@Artemis said in Searching for Star Wars RPI:

I feel like this isn't fair to a bunch of the new MUs coming out now or recently as a result of Ares.

I can only speak to, and only speak from, my experience. I know that there are a lot of great new games coming out right now, but I also know that there have been a lot of older games that got taken over by shitty people.

I certainly hope these new games do well. They look like they have fun themes and settings!

@Ghost said in Searching for Star Wars RPI:

That "Flublywub" at HorribleGameA shows up a year later as "Unicron" at HorribleGameB?

I will hear no more ill of Unicron.

Anyhow, I concur. Finding a game where the people on top aren't sacks of shit isn't easy.

@Ghost said in Hogwarts Legacy:

Regardless, it IS a good game and I enjoy the setting.

That's the other thing for me: I disliked the Harry Potter setting.

In fact, I disliked the movies and didn't care for the books either.

And this was before she took the hard TERF turn.

But it does look like a good game.

I really can't bring myself to buy into anything which might drop royalties to Rowling.

I mean, be a TERF if you want, but keep that terribleness to yourself.

@golgoth

I believe there are Changelings at City of Shadows.

For more info: http://cityofshadowsmux.com/wiki/Changeling

@Derp said in Mage 2E Game - Set in San Francisco:

Corpses are renewable resources! Upcycle.

Concept: Moros Efficiency Expert.