@mietze Unfortunately it's been 3 years and I think this is spat #22.
Thanks for the warm fuzzies, tho. My SO and I are generally the "Heeeeey let's all have a bottle of wine and be friends!" people while we slowly watch what was once a huge group of friends halve, then halve, then halve, then halve, then have to consider "who hates who this week???" when putting together a party.
We are cursed, really. We will meet a married couple and think "Hey! A cool married couple to double date with!" and then 3 weeks later they file for divorce. We meet a group of 100+ people and within weeks the group splits in half with people choosing sides, and we're in the "Sniffle...why must we choose?" camp.
It's just a shame to watch so many good people fighting with each other (or, what I fear in this case) the realization that people you once thought were good people aren't so good anymore. It's sad to have to consider which is more noble? Ghosting people because you know that wanting to talk about their constant fighting with others will only result in joining the drama pool, or trying to be genuine and address the problem as a friend knowing full well it's about a 90% chance you'll just end up in the drama pool.
The more I think about this the more I realize these people are a problem and are not good people.