Best posts made by Hella

@faraday said in Stranger Danger?:

Where I've landed after all these years:

• I stick to friendly co-op games.
• I don't do PVP or TS.
• I enforce firm boundaries on IC relationships. (Though even that has proved exhausting enough that I am now leery of romantic RP with anyone I don't already know and trust OOCly.)
• I'm choosy about the games I play on - usually either my own or ones from people I trust.

I feel bad that you've had such horrible experiences, though, because I have made several life-long friends through MUSHing. Not just "oh they RP well so it's fun to play a game with them" but true friends. Yes, we must be cautious and sensible with any interactions on the internet, but I don't think we need to be so paranoid that we cut ourselves off from meaningful interaction.

All of the above, though one slight alteration. I enforce firm boundaries, period. IC, OOC, all the boundaries, everywhere. And if there's even the slightest hint of a red flag, I just say so and move on. It has led to a world of difference for me, and I can genuinely say the friends I've made, I feel honoured to have made.

@arkandel said in Let's talk about TS.:

@surreality said in Let's talk about TS.:

@vulgarkitten Or 'omfg I don't TS and everyone in this room wants to fuck me shit shit shit RUN FOR THE HILLS'.

You wouldn't see their interest unless you expressed yours, too.

Yes, but if you express yours, and nothing comes back? Then you know they're either not interested or they're not using the command. With the insecurities of most MUSHers? It's going to inevitably jump to the former at some point and cause drama.

Miss your face

@Ganymede said:

@VulgarKitten said:

Thank you for your brilliant observation and critique about how to fix my mental issues, and for your dismissive, superior attitude.

The converse: if you don't believe that my advice will help fix your issues, then please avoid telling me as I'm conditioned to suggest solutions when people bring problems.

Not accusing you of foisting your problems on others, but I work in a field where people do this. And then, they don't listen to me or others when we're really trying to help them.

I imagine you don't use a dismissive, superior attitude when you do it, in the form of 'oh just do X, as it will solve all your problems?' If you do, then the peeve still stands. People who use the 'oh hey, have you tried X?' or 'what do you think about trying X?' approach don't raise the same hackles. (p.s. X doesn't work. Bad stuff. Probably what caused my anxiety in the first place... damn younger, wilder years)

@arkandel said in Great TV:

But capturing and honoring the spirit... that's essential. I am concerned the new Tolkien adaptation will be too... generic fantasy for me to enjoy.

We'll find out in only 80 days. Aure entuluva!

@thatonedude said in MU Things I Love:

@shincashay said in MU Things I Love:

RPing with someone for 6 hours and no romance, no ts, just developing story.

Yup, I'm stalking them now. #letmebeyourrppartner4life

THIS COULD HAVE BEEN US! >.>;

It should've been us
Shoulda been a fire, shoulda been the perfect storm
It should've been us
Coulda been the real thing
Now we'll never know for sure, ooh
We were crazy, but amazing, baby we both know
It should've been us, us
It, it, it should've been us

There was a Lorana on Road to Amber, too

Got invited to my very first TTRPG, really excited. Really nervous, too. As the title says, it's Pathfinder for Savage Worlds. Looking for folks who have experience. What are the things you wish you'd known or think a new player should know, to be prepared going into it? Or for TT in general, really. Thanks in advance!

Pinterest. It solves all the things when I need to find creative End-of-Year gifts for my daughter's teachers. Thank you, custom Starbucks sleeves.

If people are leery, they could always talk to you about what to expect beforehand. Also, if you're in something and you're finding it's not your cup of tea? Reserve the right to walk away, no harm, no foul. You could make that a caveat before the scene starts.

As for generating RP, it's not at all hard to do. Start a playgroup, but have patience. This is what I see most often, when I hear the 'but there's no RP/I can't get involved' line. People without the patience to build something substantial. ie. It took me awhile to get the ARU/Fire Station playgroups up and active on TR.

Also, accept that there's going to be people/groups who don't want to play with you, for whatever reason. I have struggled with this myself. Often times people see one playgroup and think 'Oh, I want to be part of that! That looks awesome!' but the people in that playgroup, again, for whatever reason, don't want to play with that person. Move on. Don't destroy yourself trying to get 'in'. Most times (not always, but often) you'll just end up bitter and drama-ful. Find something else. There's almost always a something else, if you 'lower your standards' (not sure if that's the right phrasing but it's as close as I can come to what I mean).

There is this link: http://rdonoghue.blogspot.ca/2009/10/10-lessons-learned-from-road-to-amber_05.html

Says they helped create it, maybe could help you.

@Luna said:

I would own that! I used to have the Hello Kitty vibrator but it was stolen. If you want the real 'packing' feel like @HelloRaptor implied, you get a feeldoe. I had an ex who was super obsessed with hers.

First.... someone STOLE a VIBRATOR? ... Second ... O.O @feeldoe. I feel very uneducated and naive right now.

@Tapewyrm I used to, as well. I was in Amon Thranduil mostly, as Aranellome and Hellaia. God, that was a long time ago.

Edited to add, I'm RL friends with player of Orosul still, too, though he doesn't MU anymore. And I still have contact with Gilgurth-player as well, not sure if he MUs anymore.

@Luna said:

@Ganymede knows what's up.

Basically just knowing that I used to be an oWoD changeling wiz says it all.

Damn it, @Luna . You're so turnt. TURNT.

@sparks said in Arx: @clues:

but trying to have every one of the 1200 clues there are so far would be a recipe for madness

This is my new favourite thread.

I have tried twice. I have failed twice. Everything looks so good in text and photos and talking long distance over the phone etc. Meeting in person is where it all fell apart. You can't force physical chemistry.

It would be nice to date someone who was into MUing. Maybe. But I'm not convinced that's not just a wishful thinking theory.

I've always wanted to set something in the Courts of Chaos. I think that sounds pretty 'new' in terms of Amber while still retaining the same world and vibe.

Is this... is this the James Bond MU I've been dreaming of MY WHOLE LIFE??????