Posts made by mietze

12 year old boy sense of humor faction? Though to be fair, I make more fart jokes on faction channels or pub than I do here. ;). Maybe immature humor faction would be better cause I can't really pass up a menstrual joke either, really.

@WTFE Yes.

I thought Gany was a sweet young thing.

More like http://www.collegehumor.com/post/7037207/12-badass-old-ladies-who-ball-harder-than-you

There isn't, but I wish there was, a grumpy old lady gang that I could be part of.

I have yet to meet any MUSHer in person regardless of whether or not I much care for them on games, and not like them. And I've met a ton of y'all.

Now it doesn't mean that even RL friends don't annoy the shit out of me sometimes in game. So it's not a panacea. Sometimes it makes the WTFery even worse.

Gany doesn't meet gamer people though so she'll just have to come in by drone.

If the meetup is held in Seattle I'll make a couple of Jell-O shot cakes. Maybe even a whole one for WTFE.

Sorry to break it to you, but Trump is by no means the most hateful person we've had as president in the USA.

In addition, this hate isn't anything new. Or even surprising. The only people pearlclutching about the "new"
racial and gender bigotry are...well...pretty much spoiled-ass white people.

Look. I work with refugee resettlement and almost all of my professional career except for when I had my massage business has been working with people with some super horrifying and scary problems.

It is possible to know and understand that there are big and scary things to deal with in the world AND to be annoyed as fuck about what some asshole says on the interwebs.

It's like, kind of the usual state of being for most people, being able to be annoyed/sad/worried about multiple levels of things! Instead of only about The Worst Thing.

My very worst day working for CPS involved having to forcibly carry a four year old child who had been regularly raped by her father away from him with her screaming and clawing at me and crying for her daddy. It was pretty obliterating as a green observer who was just about to graduate college. But you know, when I got home, and discovered that my asshole roommate had eaten my good leftovers that were marked, I still was annoyed. Even though really in the scheme of horribleness maybe I "shouldn't" have been annoyed at that at all.

Sick and tired of feeling like shit scraped off from the ground and onto a cracker. After getting a good six months mostly-respite, I'm back into the literal bone deep fatigue again. Right now it is every other day get my ass up and out of the house so my kids can have something fun to do and then spend the next day pretty much horizontal and dozing off and on.

Bone pain sucks. Fatigue sucks. Having to go through the "oh, you're fat, just lose weight and it will go away! Here have some antidepressants they help fat old ladies feel better!" conversation/delay of 8 weeks with a new doctor is just bleh to the point I don't want to pay some asshole $75 to tell me I'm old and fat. Thanks, genius, guess what, I can see that! Now can we move on?

But what little I know of my bio family history there is a lot of cancer/autoimmune disease on both sides. So woohoo! Off to make an appointment to be treated like crap until enough time elapses for there to be further investigation into symptoms than stopping at "Forty+, Fat, Female."

Just for that comment I'm going to deduct 50 DKP minus from your menstrual attractiveness stat.

I think it can apply to just about anyone yeah. It's kind of like the old adage don't talk shit about someone in "private" about a mush and then be all butt hurt or shocked when they inevitably hear about it.

If you can't handle people calling you on your bullshit then maybe don't blast or make fun on people when a ton of people know damn well your behavior elsewhere. I have often wondered, especially when it's in an aggressive convo here, where the speaker knows there are people present who know how they've behaved, why they become so vocal about how horrible that behavior is?

For the most part I think most folks even here are very much "eh not worth it" when it comes to responding, but eventually you are gonna get on someone's last nerve.

It's happened before, it'll happen again. And it is certainly not limited to gamer geeks. (As anyone who's ever been a part of a volunteer org knows.)

@surreality said in RL Anger:

More or less everybody thinks <thing> is perfectly fine when they're doing it, and an utter abomination when somebody else does.

It's how often it happens that ultimately makes all the difference.

I would also say in addition "And in how often they very vocally decry others very personally/aggressively/rudely that do it while unbelievably engaging it to the same extent if not more themselves."

Nope, not at all. There's plenty to go around. However, it's always good when you're really going to throw it down in front of a community that's super familiar with your long term behavior, you need to accept the fact that eventually someone's going to be super sick of it.

Sometimes when people push the boundaries of people keeping their mouths shut in the face of immense sanctimonious hypocrisy, eventually they get what they are in fact asking for.

This looks pretty neat.

I once got the hairy eyeball at a parent ed talk about screentime when I commented what a classist and somewhat racist bunch of garbage this "Screen time is ruining our kids! They should be playing with legos and running around outside!" stuff is.

You can play minecraft on a computer, which is often used by family for many things as a communal resource. Legos are pretty much only toys (unless you have an adult hobbyist) and are extremely EXTREMELY expensive unless you get lucky on craigslist.

Being outside is great! Do you have enough land/a useable backyard? Does your city have enough money for park upkeep? Do you have a car/gas money? Are the outdoor/common spaces accessible by bus if not? Will you get CPS or will your children be harassed while at the park if you don't "look right" for the neighborhood?

How many jobs are you working? Are you home during daylight hours when it's safe to walk/are you comfortable with your latchkey kids going out while you're not there?

I do limit my kids screen time and kicked them outside of the house in the summer when they were younger to go play outside until a certain time. BUT we have an awesome property, with lots of wooded areas and even a kind neighbor who allowed the kids to play in the creek that's on their side of the property line. At the time all our immediate neighbors were old school elderly people who enjoyed seeing/hearing the kids run around (and often would give them old junk boards and nails and tools they didn't want anymore for my kids to build forts with). There were also 3 of them close in age, and pack safety helps. Also it helps that they look 100 percent white. So no one questioned our belonging in any neighborhood park pretty much anywhere they showed up. I always had access to transportation. I didn't worry about some idiot calling CPS on me (though I had plenty of people clutch pearls because I allowed my children to play outside on our completely shielded from traffic wooded property BY THEMSELVES where I could not always be there to make sure they weren't kidnapped by the white slavery pedophile ring.)

Now I see my teens laughing and chatting and playing games with friends both online and when they get together at our place (which often involves RPGs and board games as well, in person). They are silly computer game and magic dorks. It's very sweet, and goofy, and social. We can't afford $1k per kid to have them do sports teams and all the stuff that is the rage, and that's fine.

And all of them have perfectly good working brains (as annoying as they are sometimes) despite having watched TV now and then and played computer/console games.

Wellll I guess now I have the answer as to why ever since I had children flying makes me anxiety riddled (despite loving to fly as a kid/teen/young adult)--- I thought it was me, but really it's the kids.

I am going to put my eldest on a plane to New Orleans from Seattle tomorrow until Sunday and I have had 4 panic attacks and a bunch of dry heaves in the last 48 hours. Luckily dad can drive the carpool so I don't freak her out with my freaking out.

She is going to have a great time. I love that she gets to have this experience of solo-ish travel as she will be entering high school this fall. I always feel like I ripped my kids off because they have lived in the same house since birth, while at my eldest's age now I has lived in 3 countries and 11 US states.

I trust the people she's traveling with and staying with. But I still want to hurl, pass out, and have a coronary all at once!

Trashy true crime documentaries + Unsolved Mysteries + Autopsy (HBO) series + air crash disaster documentaries

Also zit popping YouTube videos. I almost went to esthetician school because I can think of nothing more blissful to do than comedone extractions and ripping the hair off of people.

Hate to break it to you but once you hit 40+ pretty much most people put on a little weight. Not like a huge amount (10 lbs ish?). But at the same time you lose muscle mass and your fat distribution will change.

It's not inevitable, mind. But I'd encourage folks even if they don't want to do lifting and stuff to incorporate weight bearing and strength exercises into whatever you're doing in your late 30s and beyond. Men are at risk for bone loss/issues as well particularly if they've worked mainly in sedentary jobs, etc.

If it's just the weight losing 10-15 pounds is usually super easy absent medical problems. It may take longer than you want, but cutting out processed stuff as you can, reducing the meals you purchase ready made or at a restaurant by a manageable amount per week, cutting out your afternoon cafe treat, or not snacking can do it super easily.

I feel pretty depressed that I have to lose a lot of weight again, surprise pregnancy and then major health issues, but now have the all clear, but losing weight in small increments has been pretty easy for me because I know the behaviors that make me fat and I can reduce them a lot or a little based on how much I can handle.

@Paris I had that experience fairly recently also. It's pretty amazing.