Posts made by Misadventure

So you are in fact asserting that you cannot ever, EVER, say I am sorry you took it that way without being insincere?

Correct? No other possible meaning or circumstance?

@Wizz said in The 100: The Mush:

@Misadventure
...yeah man, no one is saying that.

@ThatGuyThere said in The 100: The Mush:

@Zyrus said in The 100: The Mush:

I do apologize that was what it was taken as, just saying that wasn't my intention.

@Surreality explained it better then I will. I will just comment that this is the type of non-pology that is my opinion is worse then saying nothing.
If you really want to apology do so with out qualifier. That is an apology, the above is deflection in an apology skin suit. It might play well in the media as we see celebs and corporations do it all the time but no one is fooled.

That is what I replied to.

It is the only thing I was attempting to address.

So you have a hot button.

You assume something, and won't change that assumption if told otherwise?

That's on you, not the English language.

I take it as an indicator of humanity's possibilities, not of the quality of reality, nor even the quality of the common realities.

As I said, I'm not addressing the specific person's actions, which provide context and some chance of sussing out actual motivations or attitudes.

TL;DR

"I'm sorry X was taken that way" does not equal insincere all by itself.

Given the history with the person, you can be realistically primed to look for insincerity.

The words used though?

Is there no way to indicate that you said what you meant to say, and what that was was understood differently by the given audience, despite prior audiences understanding what was meant?

I think you can say things to avoid casting or accepting blame and still describe a miscommunication.

To give you my personal perspective, I think you should not apologize for something you don't intend to do again. If I have a turn of phrase that encompasses what I mean in a reasonable way, I'm okay with it. I won't necessarily be changing it in general, though I might in a particular circumstance. I might still express regret that it didn't convey the message to someone.

In the end, if someone can't judge my sincerity correctly after I have stated what I can, and they get hung up on a sentence, I can't do anything more for them.

In this case, whomever dealt with it knows best what was likely the actual intent. Apply this to me, and I won't be considering you a reasonable person to discuss anything difficult with.

So, saying offense/whatever wasn't the intention now marks an apology as non-sincere? Good to know. No offense intended.

@surreality You are evil!

I like it.

@Ghost said in Tulpas or Roleplaying?:

"Our IC baby isn't an uncoded npc object we roleplay around...
...
... it's our child."

It's our child process.

Welcome to the Valley, I am so sure!

As long as there is never a Guest #1, so we can keep asking who they are.

Or maybe always a guest #1, so we can keep asking who they are.

That is odd, I've seen places that have names like Guest 1, or Orange Guest, etc.

The MU* Musical by Disney.

Incorrect.

Example of describing a variety of possible actions as passive-aggressive. Perhaps you mean undermining, disregarding, disrespectful, not listening, etc.

It lacks the key element of accepting responsibility to do something, then not doing it as a form of resistance.

It is however fairly overt. People often claim passive aggressive resistance because they describe something with other words, and seem to be reframing the statements. The assumption of an indirect yet malicious and conscious effortlabled "passive-aggressive" derails quite a few conversations here and on games.

It is pretty much the same as saying "I will not be able to hear you anymore, and I blame you for it. Fuck off."

@Ghost said in The 100: The Mush:

FINE. JESUS. YOU WIN, OKAY?

I expect tribute to arrive in the full of each moon, consisting of cattle, three casks mead, and each end of summer two youths to foster, and fine gifts celebrating our mutual regard.

"Passive-aggressive behavior is the indirect expression of hostility, such as through procrastination, stubbornness, sullen behavior, or deliberate or repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible."

Making statements that you think recast your own statements, or sound snide is not passive-aggressive. Anything done to your face is by definition not passive.

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No.
My characters do not comment, nor talk to one another.
However, i also tend to not comment on my own or other's lives internally or externally.

I am told that it has to be self-deprecating and quietly desperate to be English.

But I didn't. I only knew that you'd know that I knew. Did you know THAT?