I posted something similar on the other board (BMD?) and thought I'd put a version here. Not all of you are over there and I want to put it out to the community.
I've been upfront with my ADHD diagnosis, but as my meds are regulating I didn't realize I was de-regulated. So, in the past if I have said some inappropriate joke, did something, spun up and off the handle, etc. I'm sorry. I legit did not know how much my ADHD tied into the other things in my body.
That's it. Just I'm sorry. Thanks!
@macha said in The ADD/ADHD Thread (cont'd from Peeves):
@too-old-for-this My dad was also never home for YEARS after my mother passed (I was 4 when she passed), I honestly think if she'd lived, even just a handful more years, I would have been far better off, in so many ways.
But, as a female, they just wrote me off as lazy when I was a shining star in class, and never did the homework.
I seriously wonder if going back to college classes now on Adderall would be different.
ETA: Stupid spelling mistakes in the wee hours.
I'm late to this comment - sorry.
I was like a 2.5 gpa high school student. I never turned in my daily work because I'd forget. I tested off the charts. I was intelligent, I was just bored.
In college I found things I adored doing and other classes that I had to force focus, but I was a 4.0 college student. I have full faith if you want to go back, you'd be a rockstar at it. With the added help of medicine to help you think and concentrate better, even more. So good vibes to you if you are going back.
As to playlists, I find it interesting. It's more that I love music and I'm very eclectic in it. So if I don't know a group they are talking about, I want to hear what it sounds like. This is going to sound vain (but I'm not sorry), but I am interested in what songs people pick for my chars. It's like confirmation the rp dynamic is right or not right at all.
So really, I like to hear new music (or old) from artists I haven't heard from.
I would have responded for them to place their own order and get their own hair, so it would be timely and not over 24 hours. Tell them you have faith the restaurant will deliver.
@Auspice I mean I would.
However, I also owned a rainbow shower that changed the water by LED so I literally showered in a rainbow, and you know, light therapy.
Now I have a waterfall shower with adjustable settings. I'll stick with that one.
@SinCerely - you are in the group now too. You are in charge of cooking, though we will all help since no one has hated that chore yet. I have a Food Network problem and a Sugar Rush problem, so I'll be recreating from those things.
Sex is going to be an interesting negotiation, but I'm sure we can all put on our robe and our wizard hats.
@silverfox I mean. Is it a nice ring? You could pawn it for more oreos. Just saying.
Live your truth. All of it. I'm behind you.
Living someone else's lie just smothers your light. It gives the power of control still over you by what you are not saying. You have a RIGHT to your truth. You have a RIGHT to burn your own flames and be the light you need to be. Moreover, you have the RIGHT to take back your power and your feeling of piloting your own life.
You got this.
My real life peeve is my own doing but still...
When you have to buy pretty much everything for a household because you are starting over. UGGGH. Why does it have to cost so much?
I'm okay. I just decided to leave an unhealthy situation and now have to buy everything again. I was more like UGH.. why's it got to be so much. Why can't beds be cheaper? Or table and chairs? Or couches? Or all the odds and ends you need, etc.
So I was watching those ADHD videos on youtube that someone posted with the girl at some point (Don't judge my memory and unwillingness to sort through back messages). She had one on how do you know if you might have ADD. I was all of those, but the car one got me the most. My car is ALWAYS a mess. I tend to forget to bring things in. Or I'll get it next time and I forget, or.. yeah. It's a thing. Like I don't have a habit for it yet.
Anyways, just sharing that.
Five year plan? Psh. I need a five minute plan.
Although, every time I've been asked in interviews I've said no. It's something along this line:
"I don't really have a five year plan. The reason is that I'm interviewing here without a certainty of answers. That means that I'm still open to changes that could alter a plan that I make. I feel that I would be more confident in giving you a plan once I know how this decision is going to play out." Yadda yadda...
Dear Self ---
I know the idea of a homemade vanilla milkshake was a great one. In fact, you downed it in record time. That pain in your gut right now.. yeah, that's the memory of what dairy does to you.
Was not worth it.
Smarter Self
@Herja Same. Up voting in solidarity, not because I like it.
I know how it feels to just HATE how you look in something or dread going to something where there might be drama. Like Derp said, fuck them.
You are the amazing person you are. You look how you look. Rock that. If you are uncomfortable in the dress, it's only for a few hours and besides, there is even a song that says vanilla is the finest of the flavors. So you be that vanilla cone! You be the best dessert in a desert you can be.
As to the people. Yep, fuck em. Don't give any of them the power of how you feel about you. I know it's hard, but sometimes people suck. You go to that wedding. You watch your son marry the person he's chosen. You dance in that moment to that song and you enjoy being included, being there, and the celebration of love. Don't worry about the other details. They won't be remembered when you look back on the memory, just that you were there and the happiness will.
I love that I put a rainbow in my hair and now people are secretly questioning my sexuality. Why do I love this? Because it's how it should be. They don't know. It's none of their business and look, they can't tell just by looking.
Also, I am a huge human rights person. Regardless of identity. I believe people should have rights. I love that the people in my circle that use to be on the fence are coming over to my way of thinking that labels don't matter. It might not be the world, but I adore that I'm at least having an effect (affect?) on those around me
Also to anyone out there reading this. I don't care who you are attracted to (as long as they are adults capable of giving consent) or what you are into. I don't care how you define yourself. I don't care your religion, your sexuality (or lack there of - that is valid too), your preferences, etc. I want each of you to know -- I adore each of you. I appreciate that you exist. I appreciate that you take space. I'm more than happy to share mine with you.
I feel this.
Once upon a time on a game far, far, away... I had a RPing partner on a MU*. They were giving off all the indications of something being off about their patterns. They were partying harder, they were depressed, they were angry, etc. We would touch on it. I wasn't sure what to do for the longest time for many of the reasons already listed here. Then I just one day went -- Hey, are you really okay? Seriously? -- Then I went through and talked about medication and how I don't view it as something that had to be hidden. I shared a bit of my own personal story and that person ended up seeking help.
Now, it is not your JOB to do this. Please understand that. Not everyone is the same. -- My thought on it (which is personal) is that if someone is put upon my heart, then I should reach out. I would rather lose a friend with a show of concern then stay silent. HOWEVER that is just my thoughts and your choices are valid how you end up handling it.
I'm sorry that you are in the situation though.
Your name is literally Pandora.. comeon
I, too, am Apostate there. --- We are all Apostate. Is there only one Apostate? There are questions to question.
Or I'm boring little Esme. Which is everywhere on the boards, so that one is probably the correct one.
IRL - I manage people. That seems vague enough for no real details. However, this week has just sucked. I drove 1 hour each way to find a meeting was cancelled that no one told me about. I had 'adult beverages' and someone said I should come into work, even though I did my like 10+ hours already and they knew I wasn't fully sober. My team have been in-fighting like they are 4 years old and only one kid got the new unicorn toy. Not my best 'manager' moment of this happening:
Team Person Who Always Does Bare Minimum With EyeRolls: "I don't appreciate you snapped at me yesterday."
Me: I don't appreciate you didn't do your job at all yesterday.
T: …
T: Or that you were late getting into work.
Me: You mean getting that thing done at another area so you can get paid?
T: …
T: You shouldn't have snapped.
Me: You should try doing your job.
Yeah, I might be burnt out. But comeon, stop in-fighting like toddlers.