Posts made by Sunny

My issues don't trump the safety of the other people on any given game. Period.

@Groth

You're missing the part where it doesn't matter if the suffering is the same thing or different. It's not a competition. The fact is, what people are dealing with makes them less capable of dealing with this (or anything) right now.

ETA: It literally does not matter if the sensation is pain in the foot or pain in the hand. It is pain. That is what people are trying to explain. "Join the club" is the cry of a man with a broken foot to the man yelling about his broken hand. Which break is more severe? That matters to a doctor. It does not matter to the social circle involved.

I don't have enough spoons for me right now. Every day. I don't even have enough for me, let alone my family, my friends, or my job.

'Strangers in online spaces' don't get any of them right now. There are moments I feel bad about that, but the world we're living in right now is REALLY hard.

@tek

I like having you around.

@Groth

Not having the skills or ability or capacity to deal with something isn't the same as not caring about another human being.

"Join the club" is not mocking; it's a frustrated expression of 'yes I am feeling that way, too'.

ETA: I live with fairly severe PTSD. I am living nigh-constantly in a triggered state right now due to the pandemic. This is no one in the mush world's responsibility to deal with besides me. Nobody. If I lose my shit on a public channel, staff in any given place has to deal with the actual thing that I actually did even if I did it because I was literally triggered. This is why I am staying offline the vast majority of the time right now. I can't ensure I behave myself most of the time because of the psychological impacts of this pandemic on my pre-existing condition.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifting-the-veil-trauma/202003/trauma-pandemic-proportions

https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/daily-life-coping/managing-stress-anxiety.html

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/free-range-psychology/202003/the-psychological-impact-covid-19

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/coronavirus/in-depth/mental-health-covid-19/art-20482731

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/free-range-psychology/202003/the-psychological-impact-covid-19

Some reading.

ETA: This trauma is very, very, very real. If the worst physical pain you have ever felt in your life is a hangnail, your brain interprets it as VERY BAD OH GOD THIS IS TERRIBLE. This is literally how human brains work.

@Groth

That was literally her point.

ETA: People will not provide the empathy/understanding right now that they usually would because they think their few months social isolation is exactly the same. THAT IS WHAT SHE SAID.

None of these games have any responsibility to be anything except what they claim to be: games. They're a place to go play. They aren't therapy, a counter to isolation, or a replacement for a social life. They have no responsibility to support / engage people who cannot follow the rules. Being able to follow the rules is a requirement for existing in these spaces, and if you can't -- regardless of why you can't -- you shouldn't come in.

It's unfortunate if your particular circumstance truly prevents you from treating other people with respect and behaving to the minimal fucking standards most of these games have, but you cannot expect them to let you piss all over everything just because you can't control your bladder. I would feel VERY badly for somebody who is incapable of controlling their bladder, but if they wanted to come in my house they would have to wear a diaper, stay on the porch, or not drink before they came to visit me. I can't accommodate that like their doctor might be able to, I don't have the professional cleaning supplies on hand, and all my stuff is cloth. It SUCKS, yes, absolutely. It's STILL unreasonable to expect that kind of accomodation in this environment. They can't help you (they're literally incapable), and you shouldn't expect them to.

If you can't stop when you're told directly to stop, this isn't a good hobby for you.

@Lotherio

It's freaking magic to pull off something like that. WELL DONE.

Flailing in a panic for eleventy billion minutes because you can't find the signed sole source form that needs to go with this contract. Maybe it's in a previous year's file! Maybe it's been moved! Is it in my email? Why isn't it in my email? I archive all of this stuff!

stupid the contract is for 1k, there is no sole source, your limit for that is 3k

@Kestrel

People that are more bored than you are.

@Kestrel

I agree that speaking up to help out is good.

I think that 'white knighting' in specific is not done to do the thing -- it's not being done to be helpful. It's being done to get something from either you, or someone else looking on. Like 'okay I defended you now you have to sleep with me' nice guy crap. White knighting is a specific sort of BS, rather than any sort of sticking-up-for (but that doesn't stop any accusations of white knighting whenever anybody speaks up in defense, of course, because the people who are trying to shut that down are quite successful with tarnishing 'help' as a bad thing).

@Cupcake

Sending good thoughts your way. I have a great deal of admiration for your bravery in taking this step to take care of yourself, however hard it is. Thank you for taking care of you.

@HelloProject

Take whatever time you need. Hobby will still be here. Thank you for taking care of yourself.

@surreality

If it helps at all, it's not personal/something directed specifically at you. We get about 5 of that sort of email every week at work (bitcoin, porn, we saw you! going to tell everyone!), to different folks. Freaks everybody out, but they don't actually have anything and it's randomly generated based on info they can troll from the web.

I finally made the switch to a controller on my PC instead of mouse/keyboard, and I've found pretty much the only thing I can't do is mmo heal because the speed needed when something goes off the rails I just cannot do (particularly target switching). Is this just something that will come with practice, for those that use controllers, or is it actually harder to do?

ETA: Or worse, is it just a getting old thing?

The tribal response to this crisis has made me feel blessed to get to be a part of the community as much as I do.