Posts made by Sunny

I am officially on work from home until further notice, as a medically frail person. My office takes care of their people. I am so, so, so sad for my compatriots in other places whose employers do not care. I hate that this pandemic is going to devastate lives and families because of the stupid lack of paid sick leave. If people weren’t so fucking ignorant and selfish in this country we would have solved this problem 20 years ago and the virus would STOP here, rather than being the nation that ducking explodes it (which is what is about to happen because of our minimum wage workers and their relationship to healthcare).

This is what “socialism is a bad word” gets us.

Folks, if you are in Washington and get sick, look into the new family leave stuff. It will not help in an immediate sense, the wait is already like MONTHS, but they are working through the backlog and the aim is to get it down to two weeks. It is there, at least. Idk what you poor fuckers who live elsewhere will do.

@silverfox

I mean, as long as you're not saying it in the earshot of kids who are immuno-compromised, I don't really see an issue? I mean, unless you're saying it in front of the high-risk kids (or the kids whose parents have cancer, or -- so on), but I don't think that's something you'd do.

@Auspice

I don’t really care why someone is reassuring someone else that I’m the one that’s going to die. There is such a thing as expecting unreasonable amounts of understanding, and this is definitely over that line. Besides the fact that no, you are incorrect in your assumption of what the reasoning is, not all the conversations I have actually overheard (amazing, my peeve actually gasp happened directly to me) had anything to do with stockpiling. So no.

ETA: I am allowed to be pissed off that people are saying this shit. What the fuck with encouraging understanding of ‘it’s okay you are going to die’? I am allowed to take up space.

@Ganymede

They are also me. Personally. People are saying in my hearing it’s okay if I die. Politics aside, it’s a shit ass thing to say.

“It’s only the immune compromised and old that are likely to die, don’t worry.”

Like me. I am the person you are referring to here. I can hear you, thanks.

The thing is, there is likely no conscious logic involved in this sort of behavior. You can’t suss it out because it doesn’t make sense, period. Pinning motivation to it makes you feel better, makes it easier to process, but at the end of the day it isn’t normal, logical behavior and trying to apply healthy brain logic to it doesn’t work any more than it does trying to ascribe human logic to a fish. He is ill, his brain doesn’t work right. Take the steps needed to protect yourself and the community, but don’t try too hard to explain what can’t be explained.

@GreenFlashlight said in A bit of trouble on Firefly:

Still. It's the kind of day where I need to hold on to the good feelings rather than the fear, so I'm gonna do that for now.

There are people in the community these days that ARE safe, that do hear us, and that are willing to do the work and have done the work, and walk the talk they've talked. There are games I feel safe on. We saw evidence here in this thread of that with TSS. Real solid progress right there. There's definitely good for you to hold onto. We're not where we'd like to be, but I do very much believe that there's been a LOT of progress in the last 5 years or so.

One of my friends runs a charity. They put a call out saying they need can openers, the handheld ones that don't require power (about 600 of them). Since then, she has started finding them on her porch in the morning. In her mailbox. On the step at her office. New, in boxes, shiny. No tag saying where they were from.

It's the can opener fairy.

(I'm pretty sure it's one of her kids, but it's still freaking HILARIOUS.)

@mietze said in A bit of trouble on Firefly:

Sadly stalking isn't a big deal to a lot of people. When I explained some stalking and harassment that happened to me and was scaring me at my business, I was told to "adult more" if I wanted to be a business owner and btw was I sure I wasnt just being too sensitive? Wouldnt want to besmirch that person's reputation if I'd just misinterpreted his actions. That really shocked and hurt me but it should not have really given what we have historically tolerated in behavior on games.

This is why I really have very little trust in our community's willingness to really deal with problems until a game runner proves otherwise, and I operate on the expectation that they will always err on the side of people who harass or have that history until it is too bad to ignore.

I mean, MSB isn't safe. I know it's not safe, and when I'm feeling unwell I avoid it because it's unsafe. And I don't mean in the Hogpit way, I mean in the 'if I'm actively harassed, if someone is trying to harm me, if somebody shows up and starts doing genuinely bad things I can trust that the people running it will help' -- it's just not safe around here. I participate in a lot of places that aren't safe, by choice and with my eyes open -- but yeah. This community as a whole is terrible for that, and even MSB is really, really unsafe in that fashion.

ETA: The copious amount of victim blaming that goes on here is another really big example of what I'm talking about.

@mietze said in A bit of trouble on Firefly:

@WildBaboons how could a guy that had harassment orders against him be "mostly harmless?"

It doesn’t count until he kills someone. My ex was charged with 11 violations of the protection order (charged, there were many more but those had solid proof no kidding) and I got shat on for causing drama in our friend group.

@Kestrel

Trust the gut. Yes.

@Pyrephox

I realized the other day I have been out longer than I was in, finally -- I've lingering trauma (who doesn't in their life?!) but I'm mostly OK. Things like this make me twitch a little though, because the MOs are similar. I imagine if I had to actually deal with it on a game, I'd probably end up triggered really bad. But I don't staff any more, and this type of thing is literally why I will only play on games where I know I will be safe, and why I bail so freaking quick on a game if I don't.

The 'I won't unless you talk to me' bit him in the end, tho. He told me he was not going to give me a divorce unless I sat down with him and talked, would not sign papers/etc., so he ultimately defaulted or whatever the term is, didn't show up, and apparently did not realize that the judge could (and did) rule anyway, since we gave him the required notice.

ETA: Once the judge saw the email where he said he wouldn't sign the papers without me sitting down with him (while I had an active restraining order), it was allllllllll over for him lol.

My ex husband actually tried to pull this stalker sort of shit. Threatening me with various things and all of it would just go away if I would sit down and TALK to him. Why wouldn't I just be mature and have a ten minute conversation? He wouldn't try and break into my house in the middle of the night if I didn't MAKE him, after all.

"If you were more mature then I would be more mature" is never a selling point if you're reading this, dude.

I'm still not entirely functional without him, I don't know if I ever will be again.

Yeah.

Finally have a doctor that listens to me, and now that my heart is under control, we are addressing some of the other issues. Today’s appointment is long term going to improve my quality of my life. By a LOT. Yaaaay.

Imagination is a lot more fun than most things.

@Derp said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

@Sunny

Lol. Sure thing, man. I can't even keep up with this anymore. Maybe there is something wrong with me, but you've taken being offended and turned it into a damn calling, so I guess we'll forever be at odds. C'est la vie. I'll try to move on and live my best life anyway. I hope you can do the same.

This would require that I am offended. I pointed out you were rude, man. All of this for me calling you super helpful?

Can you explain to me what the difference is between you posting and my posting? Because last I checked, I'm just as allowed as you to have opinions and say things, especially when they are in response to someone going @ me.

@Derp said in Real World Peeves, Disgruntlement, and Irks.:

As to the larger questions, though: am I somehow required to gain your permission before posting commentary on... basically anything?

No? As I am not required, either. You comment, I commented back, that's how these things go.

If I'm upset, you're freaking out.

And in context, yes, pointing out the qualifier was rude. That's why I mentioned context in my original reply to you.

ETA: I have as much right to reply to your reply to me as you had in the first place. My comment is neither more or less out of place than yours. I do not need permission; you do not need permission. I said something, you responded, I called it rude (it was), and somehow we're circling around to permission and what? is there something wrong with you?