I got this one. If a coded command is simple and easy to use, does NOT come with the expectation that I have to explain myself, and most importantly I have seen other people use it and it has played out to work as intended, yes. At least for me, it would remove the parts that trigger anxiety. Now, I actually speak up just fine these days, but that is only after a whole lot of RL coaching about unrelated stuff that happened to make a difference.
I think she's interested in discussing solutions to the problem; your contribution seems to boil down to, 'it's not a problem for me'. That's fine and dandy, but as she has reiterated several times now, she is interested in discussing potential solutions to the problem. That's hard to do without acknowledgment that there is a problem to begin with.
I am gonna see if I have logs on any of my working computers when I get home.from work. I miss that game hard.
There is a stomach bug going around Westen WA btw. 2-3 days, sudden onset, possible projectile vomit involved. I had it, thought it was food poisoning. Came back to work today to find out I was absolutely not the only one.
ETA: It's not food poisoning.
I looked cos you updated and now I'm remembering Leading Edge again. T'gar was great, if my very fuzzy memory is placing him right. That game was something else.
It would be nice to never have to come in sick. I would never, ever do it if I had my way. Pretty sure that is fairly universal.
@Pandora said in How to Approach (nor not) a Suspected Creep:
@Sunny said in How to Approach (nor not) a Suspected Creep:
Asking if someone is ok is not branding someone a creep.
Yeah, in a perfect world that doesn't exist on the internet.
I am going to continue to act like the people around me are capable of being adults, and a page conversation of 'p name=you ok?' 'name pages you: yeah, I'm fine!' 'p name=OK!' is just a thing that can happen without a whole lot of issue to that. Thankfully, I've seen this play out more this way more times than I've seen the worst case scenarios play out.
Asking if someone is ok is not branding someone a creep.
We OOCly play our characters.
Even if there is no OOC communication, problematic OOC behavior is still possible.
Like seriously. Is anyone who is participating in this conversation going to be upset/offended if a stranger pages them to say 'hey, you OK?' Like, regardless of what it's about? The only person I can think of that would be bothered by it would a- only be bothered by it because they don't like OOC interaction AT ALL, and b- probably wouldn't even be bothered by this question because it's human caring about another human.
I'm not in any way suggesting that people have to do this or it's a requirement or anything, it absolutely doesn't work like that.
I'm questioning why there is this enormous pushback on 'hey, you OK?' happening.
I want to know why the people who are objecting to a simple check-in are objecting to it.
ETA: Which is to say I agree with you on this; I am really interested in hearing the opposite perspective because I straight up don't understand it.
I mean ASIDE from the fact that I'm not allowed to exist.
Can somebody explain to me why it's problematic behavior to go:
p X=You ok?
The worst part about being an adult is having to clean up after yourself when you make a mess while sick. 
I have got to say, I have played one intentional creep in my years, and it was incredibly uncomfortable. Hats off to the people that can actually manage it, but I can do outright terrible evil way easier than I can do creeper. I sent myself into fits worrying that I was going to end up making someone else OOCly uncomfortable. Never doing THAT again, let me tell you.
You know, I don't know. In the spur of the moment, I don't know that I'd do anything but ultimately sigh and wish I had the stones to interfere.
That said, if I flip the script and the guy was somebody I did like and things were cool? I would still be able to recognize that the behavior could be taken poorly, and I'm absolutely going to appreciate another lady reaching out to say 'hey, you OK?' I think that's what it boils down to. If you don't load it with expectations or w/e, keep it simple. Even if you don't know her well enough.
I mean, let's look at it like RL. Yeah, she could get terrible and drama at you..or you could be stepping in to give a hand to somebody who REALLY needs it, and I think the latter is worth risking the former, generally. While I think the specific approach might make a difference and stuff...I dunno. I think it's worth a check in even with a stranger.