@sparks This is still in acute territory rather than chronic. ^^
Ah, for some reason I thought this was a recurrence of a past pain. Fair enough, then; I hope it's cured and doesn't cross into chronic, either way.
Oh, yeah. Listening to me talk that's easy. I do have chronic pain due to some old traumas, but this is (maybe?) a kidney stone they can't find and won't pass. The whole thing is just impossible.
@sparks This is still in acute territory rather than chronic. ^^
I am in so much pain I can't see straight. Been just about two weeks now. Doctors can't figure it out. In the ER for the second time. Have no idea how to cope with this. Also, wait time here is terrible. Ugh. Thank goodness I have insurance.
https://www.nytimes.com/2016/09/26/health/obese-patients-health-care.html
It's not some only-personal-experience anecdote thing she's talking about. There are a TON of credible sources that discuss this as a significant issue.
@kanye-qwest said in Looking for an Artist, actually willing to pay...:
@thenomain said in Looking for an Artist, actually willing to pay...:
And yet doctors are shy telling them that their problems come from, e.g., being overweight because they're afraid to lose the business.
the hell they are. Doctors notoriously blame any and everything on weight. Particularly weight in women.
Yeaaaaah, even when weight has nothing to do with anything involved.
@thenomain Hahaha.
Yes, what this guy said. Febreeze can only do so much.
@peverel Peeking in is good. I'm just glad you're still breathing air. If you happen to do so while checking in here, double bonus.
@peverel I am unreasonably happy to see you. Glad you're still kicking around.
@faceless Better place to work hands down. 20k a year or 5 more years of life due to less stress and things...(not exact numbers, but). The difference that going to a good job has made on my health and general quality of life is incredible. Less stress is better for her physically, the kids (when mama is happy everyone is happy), you. Toys are nice. Health is better.
You will never find the magic words that prevent you from having to do your job as headstaffer.
Ethical violations =/= kindness needed. You do you, though.
@wahoo No, it's not the same. It does, however, involve acknowledging fault and also -- super importantly -- that your perspective is not the only important one, and that if people are going 'yeah, I had this experience when engaging with you', dismissing them out of hand displays that you do not actually recognize the behavior that made you self-describe as infamous, that you're not actually taking any responsibility, and that the purpose of what you're about is ACTUALLY to mock the people who you screwed over while a staffer.
@wahoo I phrased it the way that I did because whether or not I believe you has nothing to do with anything. It doesn't matter. You are, however, coming across as someone trying actively to be deceptive and to be after an end different than the one stated in your OP. Own your shit or don't, don't make a production of owning it and then flail when people actually start talking about the shit you say you're owning.
ETA: And if you don't care how you're coming off, cool. I just personally would prefer it if somebody let me know how I was coming across if I was genuinely interested in what you claim to be interested in.
@wahoo You're coming across as disingenuous and intellectually dishonest.
Generally I leave games for reasons specifically called out as excluded by the OP, and thus I have nothing to contribute to this thread. None of the other things that have happened to cause me to leave are a pattern or recurring reason that could be boiled down to a productive answer, they were each situational and related to the specific people involved, and as such it's not helpful.
I think ruling out external and harassment reasons when they're really the only repeat offender for game-leaving is not productive.
@meg said in Reporting Roadblocks: Denial, Fear, Shame, Guilt, Embarrassment, etc.:
And honestly, if you don't want anything to happen to the person from your reporting, then you still aren't /reporting/ the behavior. The conversation is still 'how can a game make reporting more likely'. Your conversation is a different one. Your conversation is 'how can I be a supportive friend and just listen to someone's shitty experience', which doesn't require it being staff or not.
This. I don't think the question is 'how can we help victims come forward and talk about their experiences', it's 'how can we encourage reporting'. They're very different conversations. Frankly, in a staff capacity, someone telling me something while saying they want no action taken regarding it is less than useless. It does not help them. It does not help me. If all that's desired is someone to talk to about what happened, there are several chat-based services on the internet involving people with training as to specifically how to deal with this sort of conversation. If that's what somebody is after, that is what somebody should be doing.
If I am unable to act on what I am told, what is the purpose of telling me? I can't help make things safer for the person telling me. I can't help make things safer for anybody else. I'm not trained to be of actual assistance in these matters, and could actually end up doing real psychological harm by trying to do so. So, seriously: who does it benefit to encourage someone to come to me with things I cannot take action on? It does not even benefit the victim.
ETA: Also, survivor here. So yes, I am allowed to have an opinion on this topic before someone gets into "oh you just couldn't understand" because I do.
@thenomain I do it the same way. 
Making a connection with somebody you haven't played with in many many years that's one of those 'sigh, I so miss them' people, with the possibility of ACTUALLY getting to play with them again. It is pretty much the best thing ever.
