Posts made by Sunny

I don't always write my own descs.

@Thenomain

I agree 100%. It is an absolute must.

@Arkandel said in Policies:

How do we feel about policies which punish players for their past behavior from different games?

As in, a new game opens and @Arkandel is already banned. Come on, you've all considered it.

In answer to the specific question, I have no qualms keeping the door closed where some people are concerned, and plan to communicate such very clearly. There are people that are not welcome for a variety of reasons. They will not ever be welcome. I have no interest in having them on my game any more than I would having them over to my house. That's not as much about their behavior on past games directly as it is that I feel it's my right not to have to deal with people on my game that I have had significant problems with in the past. Why would I subject myself to that bullshit? It's my space. Nobody is owed the opportunity to participate. Nobody is owed any part of my time.

@RnMissionRun

Nobody sets out to do a project wrong. Not when it's something they want to see done. I would love to see new effort in this arena -- I am precisely the sort of person that would benefit a whole lot from it.

@RnMissionRun

Respectfully, I believe you are missing the point. The goal with this sort of project is to make things more accessible, and perfect is the enemy of good.

@surreality

Dude, look at the question that said dismissiveness was in response to, particularly in context with the post that question is in response to.

@surreality

Which, when you have a situation like that, is a blanket, non-targetted public post really the appropriate fucking way to handle it? Really?

Context.

@Auspice

Then why apologize, if there was no wrongdoing?

Hint: At that point it becomes shaming, not apologizing. Which, whatever? But to expect people not to say something is ridiculous.

If an apology begins 'I am sorry you...' it's a good indicator that the person is deflecting, not apologizing. Actual apologies involve accepting accountability for whatever you did. It's not bloody complicated.

'I am sorry I...'

Not

'I am sorry you"...'

I often show up as an alt of every damn person that uses Verizon from phone to connect in the PNW.

I do know of only a single instance of someone cheating where alts are concerned. One. Once, in all my years. Mind, maybe others were and they never got caught, but it's definitely not a significant problem in the community.

Anxiety. Medication side effects. I'm on something that is working amazingly well, except that it has amped up my anxiety to the point that I am on the edge between functioning and not. Constantly. It's so bad. I just don't know if this is worse than what it is treating or not. It's a toss up I think.

Something you might want to make sure it has is the ability for players to turn it off.

Edited to add: This is literally one of the few things that I, personally, will not just not play on a game if it has it without the ability to turn it off, but I will straight up quit a game that institutes it without an off button. That's just me personally, though I know I'm not the only one. The 100 mush had a huge blow up over it.

@ThatGuyThere

Family means different things to different people. When you start getting into the big families -- if you cut your parents off, you lose the siblings too, or grandparents, or whatever. If you refuse to have anything to do with one of your siblings, you hear about it EVERY SINGLE TIME you hang out with your mom. Or, or, or, or, or. Also, don't underestimate 'this person raised me, I have many good memories, and in most other areas they're acceptable...and they are going to die before too long'. If relationships are wholly bad, sure. It is very, very rare that they are entirely bad, and again -- family. There are people that value it very differently, that family is the foundation of their moral core. Turning your back on family, it's just. not. done. Culturally, morally, it is unacceptable, just as it's unacceptable to some to go against their word, for example.We are talking base right and wrong, here.

@Vorpal I'm sorry.

@Misadventure said in Harassment in VR, there's something we can likely learn from this.:

And if you're wrong? You look at the ashes and shrug and walk away?

I'm not wrong.

If a person harasses somebody, it is not some other person's fault. Just because I let somebody touch me does not make me responsible for that person touching someone else WITHOUT THEIR CONSENT. Period. I don't give a fuck if "feminist academic circles" debate the topic. They're stupid if they're actually debating this, too.

I realize this is a contentious and difficult as fuck topic, but realize that its been going on for decades in the feminist academic circles, and THEY haven't come to a decision either. So your righteous fury ... is yours to have. There is no consensus.

And?

So I'd say either being willing to explain carefully, and without attacking a person nor reducing their words to hyperbole, OR pointing to articles that sanely attempt the same, would be far more productive.

So? I do not owe you shit. I don't owe you shit when you PM me, and I don't owe you shit when you call me out on threads after you've said that you don't want to engage with me any more. I have absolutely no obligation to not be offensive in response to someone else being offensive, and she was being offensive. I don't actually need lessons in how to communicate with people.

Or you can be angry and destructive.

Or, you know, I can just be blunt and forthright and not bother candy coating shit just to avoid offending your delicate sensibilities.

Currently the recent thread is deceased. No minds were changed, no compelling thoughts were shared.

Did you not read @Ganymede's posts? Or @surreality's? Or @roz's? Or how about any of the others that were much more thoughtful than my own? Reasons were given. Information was shared. I said that I hoped that she felt bad. That's just awful, isn't it?

Asking if she blames sex workers for people being raped is a valid question within the context of her posts. Is it uncomfortable? Absolutely. Does that invalidate it? Nope. It's illustrating what she's saying in a much more obvious, much more black and white way.

@Misadventure

Some attitudes are so vile that they deserve to be nuked from orbit.

@Insomnia

I am...wow. Just wow.

No. No, no, no. You are wrong, and the viewpoint you are spouting is wrong, and you should feel bad. I am not joking or being playful here: I hope you feel bad for saying these awful things about somebody.

Just because I get a salad at a burger place does not mean I get to be mad at the next burger place for not having them.

Just because I personally encourage someone to touch me has NO BEARING on that person touching someone else, welcome or otherwise.

The problem is with 'why not, other person did', not 'other person'. Do you blame sex workers for people being raped, too?

@Roz said in Harassment in VR, there's something we can likely learn from this.:

No, one woman being sexually harassed is not another woman's fault just because she was using her sexuality to make money.

It needs to be repeated.

She didn't ask you to show her your tits. He did.

Yes. Exactly. The booth babes are not the problem. They work hard, too, and deserve to be respected, even though my own personal preference means most of them annoy the shit out of me.

Mostly because they tend to remind me of my sister, and fuck that bitch.