@mietze said in RL Anger:
But honestly I think my trust has been irrevocably broken at this point with this school. And that teacher. They can give me nothing positive to say about my child.
This summer, at the end of preschool, my daughter's teacher concluded that she was on the autistic spectrum, and recommended that she go to see a developmental pediatrician. This was supported by the preschool's psychologist. I live in a fairly affluent suburb.
We got a referral to a development pediatrician who found that, while my daughter has a speech delay, she was far ahead of other markers in things like growth and cognition. We took her to a speech therapist who concurred that my daughter needed some assistance with understanding social cues, but that she was bright, lively, intelligent, and a very quick learner.
I have never sat down with my daughter to write or draw. One day, three months after preschool ended and at a family dinner at a local restaurant, she draws a rose and then writes, in perfect block letters: "THE ROSE IS RED AND GREEN." And that little girl won't shut the hell up sometimes, I swear, but she can quite capably read things she's never seen before, like the subtitles in the movie "Alpha."
Fuck preschool teachers sometimes.
From all indicators -- granted, I have but a B.A. in psychology -- she appears to have hyperlexia. She remains in the 90th percentile for height and weight. She makes friends with all of the "special" children in her preschool class now (we decided to keep her in preschool for an extra year because we could, and it's probably better for her). And my parents, who care for her often, can confirm with certainty that she's a lot smarter, nicer, sweeter, and more talented than I was when I was her age.
Fuck you too, Mom and Dad.
Anyhow, my point is this: don't be discouraged by bad teachers. Your boy is having fun? I say, let him have fun. He'll learn as he will, when he will. Teachers, unfortunately, can only evaluate based on the tests they do on the day they do them, so if your kid is smart enough to have his own mind, he'll probably test poorly and you'll get an earful.
Far be it for me to point out that shitty teachers often get shitty results from great kids.