@Wavert said in How do you keep OOC lounges from becoming trash?:
I like having a community on the game, but I've seen so many instances where someone takes what is meant to be a playspace and turn it into their critical outlet for whatever they can't deal with or handle in life, and just wonder if there is any way to cut that off without making people feel like they are overly policed.
I got this text from someone yesterday who said, basically:
"After taking a break from my phone yesterday, I decided that I need everyone to invest more time in their friendship with me. I can't do it on my own."
The thing is, I barely ever spoke to this person. I don't even know how the fuck they got my number; I know who they are, and I know why they could have her number, but we never hang out and I never bothered to get to know her. Because I didn't want to.
A part of me wanted to text her back and point out how unreasonably narcissistic it was to demand that any friend invest any time into anything because of your needs. Part of me wanted to shake the fuck out of this unwitting idiot who doesn't seem to realize that I don't know why she bothers.
But if I spent my life fixing the lives of people that simply demand it without payment, I wouldn't have time for the people I actually care about.
If you want to be part of a local MU* community, you don't need an OOC area to do it. How about just chatting like a normal, well-adjusted human on channels?