Best posts made by mietze

With boundaries people who have tendencies towards behaving badly can actually be enjoyable to RP with. I have seen remarkable differences in behavior from some folks depending on the administration of a game. The problem is that few people want to set up or enforce those boundaries because it's a lot of unpleasant work with an uncertain payoff. So I understand why it doesnt happen. But most people if they know that things will be enforced can do quite well in a situation where certain behaviors are vigorously enforced aa being off limits, if they are having enough fun on the game that they dont want to lose it.

That company is amazing. It was a livesaver for my son who loves actually swimming, but not so much the inherent risks in using a binder while you're doing that. He felt comfortable enough to happily wear his high-compression rashguard even outside of the community bubble (like at Silverwood/Idaho, for one example).

I try to avoid knowing alts for the same reason. There are maybe 4 people in the hobby that I would immediately walk away from if I knew who they were in a game, and honestly I'm not even sure if any still play anymore.

Because I have definitely seen people who behave one way on one game behave super differently (in a good way) on another. Maturity, greater boundaries, not going through whatever it was that assisted in their bad behavior the other time, I dunno, but it doesnt really matter. Unless the person has very personally or specifically gone after me as a person/player in the past, I'd rather play than not. And if they have done so, I assume they dont like/dont want to interact with me, so why force it? That's fucking rude. It doesnt seem like as much of a thing anymore with the shrinking of the community, but in the past I've known folks who seemed to get off on figuring out who someone was that they didn't get along with and then insinuating themselves with them on a new PC on a different game. That to me is pretty gross. Even if someone hurt your feeling with their behavior on one game, just leave them the fuck alone if they dont like you! It happens. Not everyone gets along or likes everyone, you dont have to prove a point and actively deceive someone about it.

It's been kinda a scary crappy day but while I was waiting in my car for an appt my favoritest voracious predator (a ladybug) flew in and landed on me and hung out until it was time for me to go in.

Or out of fear that they are not doing it right because their skills are "too low/not good enough."

So like if you are in the Seattle area (or maybe even beyond) and do grocery shopping at QFC it might be work checking out today, mine had giant spiral sliced hams on sale for 67 cents per pound. I don't shop a lot in the meat section these days but when I rolled by that I said "whaaaaaaaaaaaat" apparently a lot louder than I intended and made the two burly dudes at the meat counter giggle out loud. A holiday sized ham for less than 8 bucks!!

@arkandel I agree. And honestly reevaluating that has helped me get a lot more patience and personal fun back.

Man, I just got hit in the feels by realizing the last time I actively staffed (approving apps, staffed STing, adjudication conflicts, processing jobs--i have helped out places before but not in a full staff capacity) ended a few months after I had my surprise last baby...who turns 7 the weekend after this weekend! And I think it was this week I went on maternity leave and handed the M/M+ reins to Surreality.

I am super interested in the game, and would totally app in at some later date should there be a die off of active players a few months from now (as I am 90 percent sure will happen). I do not like to get in on opening day on any game these days because of the surge/whining that it isnt what tons of players thought it would be/die off pattern that is standard for games endorsed by popular folks now, because it can be a game killer. I find the sweet spot is 6 months or more after a game opens if it is super popular.

Bifocals are amazeballs and I wish I'd gotten them sooner!

There doesn't need to be 3 threads for every advertised game.

If someone makes an ad, great

If later someone is moved to offer constructive feedback at some point, they can great a thread for that purpose for that game.

If someone needs to vent about it, they can do so on peeves or like make a new thread.

People can do that now. It's just that they can also do all of those things on the ad thread too. And then people complain about it.

I am getting my first dose of the Pfizer covid vaccine on Saturday evening (assuming they don't have a supply shortfall). I am happy about it but cannot stop bursting into tears every so often. Maybe I will stop dreaming of choking to death and being unable to breathe, a nightmare ive had since a work colleague died last March. And that has been intensifying over the last 3 months since my workplace has been making increasing shortcuts and risky practices because of corporate pressure to maximize children and minimize staff again to bring in the most $$$$$$$.

Also I have had 4 phone interviews and am going into an in person interview tomorrow with other jobs expressing interest so maybe I will get out of the stressful and dangerous (on a few levels not just covid) situation soon.

Thank goodness and Biden that for once ECE/licensed childcare is not left in the dust and is prioritized alongside k-12.

@saosmash agreed. Or you can be in a situation where you lash out at people who care about you and damage that relationship to the point that they cannot be there for you. I agree that friendships and trust is important and precious. But I have also had people abuse that and use that to the point that was irrevocably broken. Though I am pretty sure almost everyone in mushdom has had that happen at least once.

Because things that affect menstrual cycles and other issues are often overlooked in medical research, and because of some interesting things that have happened to me post 2nd shot (no regrets though, 1000 percent worth the mystery/kinda inconvenience), i'm glad to see that there are a couple of researchers collecting information about it since certainly the official text based info gathering didn't. I was told about this by a doc friend that I trust, she said it was legit. Regardless of whether or not your cycle has been impacted I think its good if they have lots of participants! It is not a medical study but a research project gathering experiences.

Survey link from the project

@silverfox Hey that is a computer literacy skill that is really good to learn before adulthood at least!

I am so exhausted. My job is fun and not stressful at all so I am having to deal with less RL stress other than trying to crack the whip to get two very checked out seniors across the finish line to HS graduation. But I find myself going to bed early/frequently napping after work, its hard for me to get super excited about anything. I do not feel /bad/ but I just do not feel good in my body anymore. Like I need to hibernate or something. I can even be doing something I very much want to do and all of a sudden I need to go lay down and sleep. I think it must be in my head because it does not happen during work hours. I miss people.

I agree. I have no issues with people pushing their own comfort zone in storytelling/writing/whathave you. I think telling stories about things that terrify/sadden/excite you is straight up human nature.

But. When one's issues become used as an excuse for behaviors that negatively impact the game, or one uses them as a method to control others, that's when I draw the line. Though I am fine with game runners choosing their own theme/boundaries and making them clear. Or players who need to nope out of certain themes.

Very few people use their issues to be abusive to people, imo. The ones that do are memorable though. Sometimes they do better sometimes not. But I think anyone regardless of past behavior (beloved or loathed) should not get a pass for destructive behavior on a game.

@rinel we are, for a host of reasons a therapy friendly family, it's just like regular health care to us. So my kids have had access throughout their teen years in particular and we live in a state (and have taught/supported then in learning how) they can take charge and manage their care (as well as us helping out with transportation, ect). Most of the bigs have at least touched base with a therapist during this time. But we prioritize their care financially.

Unfortunately I do not believe what I am experiencing will be at all alleviated by talk therapy or medication, I think it is largely a matter of time. Thankfully due to previous work I know a lot of strategies for dealing with trauma issues, so those have been helpful in managing things this whole time. I'm glad that the unusual nature of this hasn't been personally triggering to me, having seen others suffer that because it is to them.

Sometimes things just are what they are though.