Posts made by mietze

My opinion on alt policy is really individualized to the game.

Is it a small game, with a single competative "sphere" where it is highly likely to have all PCs or many of them constantly in each other's space?

Then I am heavily in favor of one PC per player.

Is it a small game, cooperative, where it is highly likely to have all PCs or many of them constantly in each other's space?

Then I am okay with alts, but would prefer 2-3 max per player, with restrictions on class of PC to minimize alt crossover (either of the my PCs are helping each other out, or I will make 3 PCs that all center around this other player's 1 PC variety).

Is it a large game, with plentiful staff, where there is in theory ample room for PCs to be way spread out with no interaction at all? Sky's the limit.

With the following caveats for the latter two:

COI must be defined and rigidly enforced. First time catching bad behavior, you get to pick on alt and retire all the rest. Poor player behavior is to be managed. (As in, if you have staff who do not want to run scenes at all because Asshole has to be in EVERY SINGLE SCENE with an alt and behaves like...themselves...then you need to punt asshole, or set limits on how many staff run scenes per week that any player can attend, or some other management of the actual problem person.)

So what say you, community? Is this something you’d want to be involved with?

Very much so.

The raunchiest conversations I hear in the locker room at the Y are when the silver sneakers (55+) water aerobics class gets out. Though that should go in RL Things I Love really.

Oddly the easiest physical conditioning and energy and drive I experienced was in my 30s! Especially the latter half was the best shape I've ever been in my life. Started doing triathlons, took up running/cycling, considered going to school to be a personal trainer again. Had surprise baby at 40 though then got hit by illness now it's harder to get rid of the fat. However! I'm also 40+! So I may very well say fuck this shit, come out as fat a la Lindy West and just start gently doing the things I loved most (brick training for tri and supervised personal training--I need a spotter and mirror at all times pretty much because of hypermobile joints and inability to feel dangerous hyperextension doesn't mean I can't tear things up). And just not worry about not being able to lose 100 lbs in like 10 months pretty easily like I did in my 30s.

Best thing about my 40s--I really don't give a shit what the 20 something dudes think of some chubby old lady sharing their space, and I cheer on the 80 something little old ladies that whoop my ass on the track or in dance class, they are badass awesome.

I do think (well, I may be behind the times by a decade or two) that bi "unicorn" and "versatile" tends to not be about bisexuality itself but a very very VERY narrow target that largely involves M/F couple entitlement to their FMF threesome. Virtually every time I have heard unicorn in particular bandied about, either as a perjorative or otherwise, it's been in the context largely of "how DARE that person CLAIM to be bi and NOT immediately want to eat out my gf/wife as I watch and maybe fuck one or both eventually." Or "OMFG how dare someone who labels themselves as bi not want to form a triad with our already established couple. What do you mean she or he only wants to date one person. What is the point?"

It can be very frustrating. As someone who has dated men, women, couples, ethical slutted, ect--there is a whole fucking hell of a lot of entitlement by people directed towards anyone who claims the bi label but doesn't want to date or screw couples, ect.

That being said. I understand the need for space. I don't think there's really that much of an issue with a MUSH that says up front they will only accept male PCs. Or even more narrowly gay or bi male PCs. It's not like all the players will be men. I do think that keeping women to puppets is a little...well. Kind of offputting, because of my own personal hangups about that. HOWEVER, on a game where there can only be male PCs that is predominantly supposed to be about same-gender relations, but still for some reason allows straight male PCs, I guess it's nice that they can have RP around that if they wish and so I understand why that might be a thing? I probably would not play there because the puppet woman thing is a little much for my sensibilities. Single sphere games are about as narrow in focus when it comes to "we only allow THIS" as I enjoy as a gamer.

It's Happy Slurpee Day y'all!!!

I love the 80s theme actually. Though granted everything-sphere game is complicated, adding historical might be too much. But it would be the best. (Surr you and I could be historical consultants. I'll bring the aquanet and spiral perm equipment!)

I think that could be fun. Though reboots are pretty tricky.

I'm sorry, @Arkandel, having just gone through this last week. Enjoy you time with her/him, and make the best decisions you can.

I had a lot of fun on CoFaB.

Thanks, guys. He ended up showing signs of distress so i took him in to the emergency vet, we were able to make him comfortable and I was able to hold him as he died. I feel kind of numb, but it was the right decision I think.

Getting home from a crappy day at work to find out my cat is really dying. Peaceful so not going to call the house call vet unless he's in pain or struggling. But it's pretty damn clear.

Starting the day with a lengthy guilt tripping text about how I've ruined her life because I'm an awful kid and also how unfair it is because we no longer entertain the idea at all that the kids will visit on their own (across the country) since 2 years ago my mom went on a violent drunken rampage and attacked me physically, had to be restrained in hospital and has yet to not state it was my fault because I didn't say thank you properly. Apparently when you say "I'm sorry, I should just kill myself because you'll never give me another chance and you hate me so much" that's a great apology and recognizing what took place, and means that everything should be in the past and I am cruel for not believing that my children are safe in unsupervised care with her where I'm a 5 hour plane ride away.

Guess I'm getting my annual birthday message of "you were the worst mistake of my life, I should have gotten a better kid, you suck" two days early this year. I'm not real sure why I allow this to hurt me, you'd think after over 40 years of it I'd be used to it, but it does. Oh well, back to getting weird huggy sparkly emojis and stupid trite religious messages tomorrow.

Thanks mom.

I think pretty gross and thoughtless statements come from regulars on this place on a not infrequent basis when they feel like they need to champion something. I understand why most people choose to not dignify it with a response, but yeah, when you're targeted by a such-statement it can be a punch. But getting involved in the emotional response even when it's you isn't worth it. The person making those statements doesn't give a shit, no amount of explaining is going to get them to see it, so you might as well move on.

And to be fair, maybe I missed something, but I only see Theno and maybe deadculture defending wanderer against Arkandel (and deadculture seemed to be more slamming Kanye than doing that anyway).

@Caryatid would be an excellent person to get feedback from. Tagging her so she sees this!

I am more like Sunny in this regard. While I believe that there are things currently unexplained I also think that there are explanations for them.

I am not a very woo woo person. And yet a lot of things like myofascial therapies were considered make believe or ignorant old fashioned remedies that are no longer needed now because of medical advances even 20 years ago (or even massage or hydrotherapy benefits) are now accepted and recommended and adopted as allopathic medical establishment practices.

I have experiences on a regular basis that aren't easily explainable, as a bodywork practioner. I never believed in transference of negative "energy" for lack of a better scientific term or that "spiritual" grounding before putting your hands on someone can help. I can detect, if I really make a connection with someone during a session, with pretty good reliability strong emotions and experiences. I've seen people have emotional releases when certain more eastern medicine hotspots are worked on/when it's where they are happening to hold their stress in their body.

I do think that there will be a scientific explanation more thoroughly eventually. I dislike "energy workers" with a passion because I think most are shysters and I especially hate fake Native American "I was adopted by a shaman spiritually and now I can heal people" cultural appropriators. But I have a far more open mind that it may very well be that there is something to electrical field sensitivity or other things that make me a little uncomfortable to hear my fellow body workers talk about; I do think that some people may be able to tap into that and produce effects or some other explanation.

I love it when people are willing to post negative (truthfully so or not) rumors about their PCs, or silly ones about others.

I guess whenever you put something negative out though you have to be prepared that there are many players who will take it as gospel truth, or that their PCs will. Sometimes that leads to fantastic RP but not always ending how you want. I do think that's why some players go absolutely batshit insane on any negative rumor posted about their PC, because of that fear that many people will take it as OOCly accurate.

However, the Some People generic but obviously targeted bbposts written by staff? Biggest pet peeve ever. And most of the time they don't even get it right. And quite a bit of the time they make the good/nice people worry while their target remains blissfully unaware. Yuck. I tend to be a fan of private conversation rather than "reminders" public that apply to like 1 or 2 people. It's just not necessary, and worries people unnecessarily, and there's really no reason to shame someone like that.

Don't be dense. You know exactly what I'm talking about. You may very well enjoy that behavior, but yeah. Doing stuff like that is super unnecessary. Especially when there has been ample time for preparation.

If people came into a scene, as reported and then openly left in order to go be part of the cool plot? That is showboating.

No reason for it.

I know why it's tempting, audience and all that, but it is somewhat in poor taste when others know what's going on and it can be easily averted. ESP on a small game.

Yes. When you're given a timeline by someone (I'll be back in a week) then it's a good idea to bother to abide by it before sending them a nastygram conflated with /other people's decisions and actions/ that you are unloading on them as well, and claiming you got the facts straight as best you could. A communication entitled "good riddance" doesn't seem to be a great way to open things up, does it?

The ooc showboating of "I'm going to get to do this cool thing, see you guys later" is obnoxious but a lot of people can't help themselves. That's why you host it at a time wren another scene doesn't have to be interrupted in the course of it. Channel or page showboating is one thing but in combination with a scene exodus so there's an audience? Yuck. And so unnecessary with just a smidgin of common sense and/or not behavior blindness.