Posts made by Catsmeow

@Auspice

I don't even know how to buy LLR. Like where and how do I do it and.. ugh.

Yeah.

Ugggggh...

Kids. Gosh, I hates them sometimes.

My friend's child got her cellphone stolen. That is bad enough. However, they started texting her contacts and telling her friends that she didn't want to be friends with them. They have sent the screen shots to her mother. When one friend didn't buy it the unknown person said:

I'm her worst nightmare
I go to her school and I will make her life miserable when she doesn't expect it.

This was shown to the principal. This person shrugged and said that until the girl is physically harmed, he can't do anything. Nevermind that the 'anti-bullying' laws in their state say differently. I pointed my friend to the laws and told her to make sure she put in writing what she submitted and what they declared an acceptable outcome. However, geez.

While I'm all about you know having thick skin and growing a set. There is a level where this is just frustrating and wrong. Like the poor kid now has to look over their shoulder and the person has all their information. The principal also said: Well she shouldn't have had her phone out of her locker. --- Holy victim blaming.

Anyways.. I'm just ranty. Sorry.

These were not pink nor monster ranchers --- it was a penguin!!!

I couldn't eat them too cute, but OMG where were you and how did you get them and OMG. There is much OMG in my world right now.

@Auspice

If your migraines are getting that severe tell your doctor and talk about getting on FMLA. It won't get you 'paid' time off, but you can get the time without getting in trouble or fired.

On pain scale, I'm always like 'meh'. Like the last time I went in I was like.. "Oh.. maybe a 4 or 5." The medical staff was like, "Well there is no blood flow to the entire left of your heart. You probably could have said 8 or 9." I also have a high pain tolerance to things. My broken ribs were a 3 or 4 (which I broke 4 of them). So it's so subjective really. Apparently, almost everyone in the ER always says their pain is at a 10.

As to being old. I'm there and I get it. I had an 8 track when I was in HS because I thought it was cool. Those things don't get me as much as referencing songs or people that no one knows anymore. Like how do you not know Knight Rider?! Or how have you not heard of Princess Bride?

Small world. I can't remember what I played. I think my IC SO was like Jimmy or something guy that ended in y related or something. Yeah. I would probably cringe now with how I was and what those logs looked like.

One of my first 'find by myself' games was like Proto II or something like that. I cut some of my MU* teeth on Robotech stuff.

My rule of thumb (and it's mine - so not right, not wrong) is this:

If I think a person is mad-dogging someone. I tend to engage the person being looked at. If they don't want to talk that's fine and I'll go quiet. If a person is actually insulting/threatening a person, I speak up. If there is an act of violence, I assess. I am not a fighter and 5'2. I am not going to put myself where I become the victim to violence, but I will call for help and do what I can.

Is this right for everyone? No. It's not.

I can't just judge a look because I don't know what the person is thinking. What if the person is the ex of the other and the relationship is being rubbed in their face? What if they said something insulting?

What I am saying is that all the corruption and all the violation of civil rights comes down to 'not me' and good people doing nothing. I am not in a large demographic that is targeted beyond my gender which is bad enough. However, just because I'm not in that demographic doesn't mean I don't use my voice to help them. Not to start 'that argument' but there is white privilege and there is hetero privilege. If you don't believe in either, maybe you don't live in the US. I have never heard something stupid referred to as 'that's so hetero'. So while I cannot change the course of this overnight, I can use what voice I have to speak for those that cannot. People will listen more to me because I was born with blue eyes, pale skin and blonde hair. So when I talk, I make it a point that my words are to empower those that are being pushed down by the rights I received (and they did not) merely because of birth.

IF we all started just being good to each other, there would be so much more grace and love around us. You get what you sow. I say hi to everyone on a bus I sit by. I respect if they want their silence, but what if they hadn't talked to someone and they just need a hello or a smile? Is that too much time to take from my iphone game or the music in my ears? If they want to engage in conversation, I'll respect that too. We might learn that we are not an island in a sea of people, but we are social beings in a society of strangers that need not be so strange to us.

If more people spoke up because it's wrong to deny civil rights to a part of the population based on things they have no control over, maybe there wouldn't be hate crimes. Maybe people would not be afraid to admit who they are inside and allow it to reflect on the outside.

TL;DR - Make love not war -- Also No, I am never going to stand by and agree with someone that we should do nothing because it 'doesn't concern us'. If it involves another person being hurt or repressed; it damn well SHOULD concern us. If it doesn't, it might soon also be us.

Steps off her soapbox - sorry

@ThatGuyThere

First -- This is my opinion it doesn't make other opinions wrong.

That's why I said that I would have engaged the couple in polite and friendly conversation. @Meg isn't suggesting lighting a person up for it. It is very hard to know what to do and to to do it. That's why I don't down put someone, but advice was asked for.

I am a firm believer that you do not cure hate with hate or anger with anger. So coming from a loving stance. You would embrace the couple with love (not literally - please don't touch strangers without permission). You talk to them and engage with them. You show your support in a non-hostile manner.

Like stated, no one can perceive a person's thoughts just by their looks; until they say or do something. You can be aware that it might exist, but we are not going to help cure prejudice by creating our own based on assumption and wrongdoing. However, there are many saying about evil wins when the good do nothing.

If someone is being mistreated in any form. I like to think we would offer support and protection in a banner of love and peace and calm. There are times you need to step up and state something is wrong when it is wrong. We as humanity all have the basic rights to live our lives without the force of hatred at us. As well, I don't think we should let someone face it alone.

Now in this situation we don't know the other person's thoughts. He could be smirking because he's thinking last week he and his partner got yelled at. He could be shaking his head and tsking to the event in his head and the couple just triggered the thought, but not at the couple. So if we embrace the couple in love and our support without brutality and aggression; then the other man will either take note and agree with us or he will take note and realize he's alone in his thoughts and keep them to himself. Either way the couple is spared and hey, maybe you make new friends.

@Arkandel

It's hard to say. I mean he could have been smirking and tsking and shaking his head because 'young love'. You know, we all have those moments of ewww they are holding hands. Or something like that. It might have been the same if they were straight.

If you are concerned. Yeah. I would have plopped down near the couple and probably engaged them in friendly conversation. If they were willing. A friendly way to show solidarity without upping the aggression game.

I think it's hard to decide and it doesn't mean what I would do is the right thing to do either.

@Meg

Right. I agree with some of that. I'm not sure if it's asshole-ish if you stay when families want the public area. I think it's not nice, but not entitled. If that makes sense.

(PS. Y'all see what we did? We disagreed and no one called anyone's mother anything. This boys and girls is how you debate a topic)

@Meg

Last I checked it was legal in California and Washington. I know it's legal in Nevada. So it's apparently a state by state thing. So if it's illegal in your state... yeah, don't do it. If it is legal in your state though...

Also, it's not a hit at you personally. I'm cool to agree to disagree and still respect you in the morning.

I also think of it like this (we'll use Nevada because I know it's legal there - sooooo many meetings about it). Let's say I have high anxiety (I do) and depression (yep) and my life is just sucking ass right now. I have legal pot in a legal state that allows public consumption. I happen across a park with no rules posted against smoking (a lot DO have rules posted against it). I see a swing. I think hey, no one is around I just want to get high and swing until I feel better in this public location. So I light up. I swing. I try to feel better and then this person strolls in with a dog/kid/self and demands I leave the public area. I just think that's a little asshole-ish of that person.

However, as a non-smoker. It does make me grr face when I have to smell like it, but my choice to be around it too.

So we do disagree, but I'm not saying you are wrong at all just different thought patterns on the issue.

EDIT: It is apparently illegal to smoke it in Nevada now too. @Meg is right. I didn't look at other states. So you are a dick to smoke illegal things in public.

Ehhhh......

As a non-smoker (of all the things) and a parent, I'm going to have to disagree. You don't own the public property. The city owns the park and if they don't have a no smoking rule, you are the dick to roll up on someone and tell them leave. As well, you are a dick in general for rolling up on someone engaged in a legal activity and telling them to leave. How entitled is that?

It is legal to smoke weed in a state that has ruled it so. You can have X amount on you. You can smoke it in public, etc.

If I rolled up on the park and there is already someone on a park bench or hell even the swings smoking a cigarette. I would just relocate to another area of the park. That person has just the same right to be there as I do. They don't have less because they are over a certain age or haven't spawned like I have. This goes with all legal substances that can be smoked. They were there first. We are getting far too entitled.

Now, if it was a school (not public property but hey they tend to let you use their play stuff), then I'd be like whoa dawg. Or if I was there first playing with my child and someone rolled in smoking, I'd be like -- um.. dude, since we were already here, can you extinguish that until we leave or take it over there?

I mean.. this is not a hit at anyone, it's just my opinion on it.

My dog is small (12.5 pounds). He's always on a leash and he gets excited and jumps. So I always stop people who run at my dog. I'm like, you can't touch him until I tell him to sit. I almost took out a kid that ran at my dog. I clothlined that child and was like NOPE. Don't ever run up to an unknown dog, ever.

His parents were offended I stopped them. So I asked if they would rather be calling 911 because of an animal attack. They thought for a moment and luckily you could see the light bulb click on.

Our dog parks are separated by small and large breed because of the prey issues. One lady had her pitbull in there. Which is a lovely dog and was, but they tend to see little dogs and animals as prey. This IS NOT the dog's fault. I kindly told her to go to the big dog side.

I'll play but only if I get this infamous @tragedyjones sexxorz.
So can I make a meat sheath?

Other than that...

@Cupcake said in RL Anger:

On an entirely different note: If one more person smugly insists that Rock wouldn't hurt their cat, I'm going to consider them duly warned and deserving of what they'd get.

What?!

In fact, I'm going to make a topic.

Post what a game did right. NOT A PERSON. No names just what was good about the game. No drama llamas or bad stuff.

Like Game XYZ had the best resource system because....

Doesn't matter if the headstaff TSed everyone and we all hate her. Just a list of good things we have seen. No sucking up. Just factual. Maybe we'll be able to coordinate that information to work on future games.

PS. Sorry if this might exist. I didn't see it but you know...

@dontpanda

I use to work in an industry that was appointment based. So I wouldn't get paid if people no showed. Then we got the policy that we'd get paid half time of the appointment but management was always overturning it. "Oh, we'll let it go this one time." So I had a three strike rule. The first time. I understand things happen. The second time. I'm annoyed now. The third time. I refuse you.

It is very annoying though. So I feel for you.

@Cupcake I'm not really seeing anyone right now as I've just moved. I am in that looking for work and broke moment of life. Which probably doesn't help the anxiety.

@Auspice
That is my life. Also if I text people and I'm like, am I texting too much? Oh God. Do they hate me? Do they just feel obligated to hang with me? Am I an obligation? Do I make people want to be somewhere else? --- This is especially true when you know you have felt an obligation to people or you know they feel it about others.

It's just a bitch to deal with and I'm sorry for those dealing with it. Like there is part of my psyche that is like, you are not this person, knock it off. People genuinely like you IRL and talk to you off games you have quit. So they must like you online. It's just that anxiety is a lying toxic bitch. Thanks though. I just needed a place to whine.

My social anxiety -- or maybe just anxiety -- is going CRAZY. I am normally a self-sacrificer. If I think something is wrong, it must be my fault and I must leave even if it's painful for me. I've been talking to people online and find myself crying because I just think I'm messing everything up and people don't like me and.. blah.. blah pity party.

I know it's my anxiety/depression but I really get frustrated when it makes me who I'm not. You know?