@Lisse24 It is easily explained by the maxim:
When you're accustomed to Privilege, Equality feels Like Oppression.
Fundamentally, Christianity is a faith that puts a focus on proselytizing, and comes from a power base that could overpower any kind of "no, we don't want this" that they may have been faced with. That's been changing in the last few decades, as less people feel like there's a penalty for not choosing Christianity as a life choice.
@Ghost said in Fate's Harvest BETA Live (Full Open Soon):
Personally I think it's sad that this person isn't being given the opportunity to attempt roleplay with updated behavior.
I'm not a friend of hers, nor do I role play with her, but all patterns aside, there are people in this hobby far more deserving of scarlet letters on the loose who don't suffer the same degree of scrutiny.
I, for one, refuse to partake in this witch hunt behavior.
Have you un-retired from mushing?
Because this comes off as proclaiming the higher moral ground in a race you have no horse in.
No apologies needed. We've had enough exchanges in public and private to know where you stand, and I appreciate you being upfront. Stuff like this is hard.
Honestly, as for the gossip, at this point I expect folks can either put up or shut up. Which is not on you at all.
@bobotron said in Good or New Movies Review:
@arkandel
Wonder Woman's sequel is pretty assured; they even got rid of Brett Ratner because of the sexual harassment stuff going on.
And because Gal Gadot flat out said she won't do it if he's involved.
If new people are allowed, I am there with bells on.
@saosmash A place to slag on other players and insult them in perpetuity, basically.
WORA had a wiki just like it! 
@surreality I don't know if you're aware, there has been a resurgence of Jem product, and I don't mean that shitty movie that never actually happened because like Highlander 2, we do not discuss it.
IDW Publishing has a pretty sweet Jem comic book, and in 2015 there was a limited edition 20th anniversary line that came out.
I, uhh...might be a fan.
(She said while wearing her Jem tee shirt.)
I think there can be a happy medium. I've played minorities/women in historical games on more than one occasion, and I welcomed roleplay that reflected the intolerance and unfairness these classes have suffered. However, there's a point where it's not acceptable.
Like, I'm okay with my Victorian era female Indian medical doctor (shut up, @Ghost) being held in contempt by the white people around her and not wanting to utilize her services. But I wouldn't be okay with my Wild West Jewish seamstress being called "kike", etc. There's societal disdain and then there's overt abuse, and the last does not contribute to a fun rp experience.
(Honestly, if I were doing a PPZ game, I'd make race less important (because when the undead want to eat you, all humans taste the same) than class. Because I am certainly NOT permitting some Chinese trained lady's maid to my whist party no matter how well she's developed her five finger death grip.
Have you ever wondered how fast a greyhound could run?
Apparently fast enough so that they can catch up to a car already on the opposite end of the street.
My maternal brothers were playing D&D when I was born. Not literally. Like, not, "Mom's in labor, roll a D20!" but you get the idea. By the time I was a toddler they dressed me up in drag and taught me the lyrics to Sweet Transvestite. My mom took me regularly to Broadway matinees.
I was a reading prodigy from an early age - I was clocked as having a high school reading level in the first grade. Of course, this was the southern rural Oklahoma public school system, so that isn't saying much. Still, I corrected my teacher's pronounciation of Greenwich Village in 1st grade, and bringing in The Lion, The Witch, and the Wardrobe into my second grade class resulted in neither them nor the teacher understanding it at all.
In the third grade, having seen a Life photography article that had horses done up as unicorns, I told me teacher that unicorns were real. We argued about it.
I've had Star Wars action figures as a kid, right alongside my Barbies, took the neighborhood kids on little D&D style "quests" in our apartment complex as part of our play time, glommed the Dragonriders of Pern by the time I was 12 or 13, inevitably embraced horror, comics, and seriously, it's just always been there
Papa John's is delicious, but Papa John himself can suck a bag of dicks.
If you've ever been in Seattle, you know Pagliacci's is the way to go.
Pepperoni + Pineapple = BEST.
The DownWithOPP flashbacks from this thread have made me vaguely nauseous.
I don't like being called things like "kiddo" and "baby". I find them infantilizing. So when I ask people to stop, I try to do it politely.
I am not interested in you explaining to me what "kiddo" means, nor am I interested in you listing the other terms of endearment you enjoy using. If I ask you politely not to call me something, be a decent person and stop. Ask me if x,y, or z is okay instead if you like, or ask for a suggestion.
Because it's not about how you regard the term, it's about how the term makes me feel.
I understand your situation, I really do. There's a point in the particular cocktail of mental health problems where you even think you're objectively viewing your behavior and you're not, and you literally do not understand why you get the kinds of responses from others that you do. It's been happening to me for literally decades.
Then I stopped choosing to be frustrated, and started asking myself why this was happening. I went (and still go to therapy), I do my best to recognize bad patterns, and I know that I will fuck up without meaning to, and understand that I need to acknowledge it when it happens, make amends, and forgive myself when it does. I'm still working on it, I'll always be working on it.
And it's not all universal. In the past year I got page-banned by someone completely out of the blue, without any reason given - and when I tried to figure it out on my own, I wasn't correct, though I still took responsibility for a choice I realized was wrong, and as someone with anxiety, having people freeze you out without knowing why is the worst thing. Funnily enough, the issue was less about me and more about them in the end - I had triggered them in a way I literally had no idea about. But the situation left a bad taste and I couldn't continue on the game because of it.
That said? If staff did their due diligence, they at least took the time to tell you why they made the decision to ban you. They may even have tried to correct your actions prior to banning you and giving you some form of heads up/warning to course correct. And yeah, some staff are just assholes, but that is not often the case, especially now in the later years of mushing for most of us.
The best advice I can give you is to bear in mind that while mushing can be helpful, it doesn't replace therapy or psychiatric care. If you are behaving in a manner that leaves you feeling less in control (and negative experiences can certainly make that spiral hard), best to step away for a while, and talk to someone, preferably an expert, about why things occur for you the way they do. Take responsibility for your choices, acknowledge what leads you down such a path, and make the effort to improve.
@surreality I never understood the importance of taking a vacation that wasn't about some kind of purposeful event, ie a holiday, a celebration, visiting relatives, etc and generally my "vacations" were always about that.
And then for the first time I got to take a vacation solely for the purpose of taking a vacation, and doing things I never get to do, seeing things I don't often see, eating amazing food, and generally doing whatever the fuck I want within reason.
Unsurprisingly, it was amazeballs, but what truly surprised me was how I felt after it was over. I had been burned out for so long that I didn't just feel ready to go back to work, I was positive about it. And I can feel it sustaining me so that maybe in another year or two I'll do another awesome vacation so I can perpetuate this level of energy and connection. Basically, my thing is that I want to encourage you to take a vacation purely for the sake of vacation, if and when you have the opportunity to do so. I promise it is worth it. It's an investment in yourself.
@A-B Sorry for the delay in reply. The fact of that particular matter was I did in fact do something toe-steppy, because my anxiety got the better of me, only it turned out that the thing I actually did wasn't what got the other person upset. I thought it was, and so I immediately apologized for what I was able to realize was wrong. Even if I had known then what the problem was, I would have still apologized for taking that action, because I realized in retrospect it wasn't cool.
Am I irritated that I got cut off before I could find out what the actual problem was? Of course. One of my biggest, long standing triggers I've discovered is the feeling I am not being listened to. But I also know that I am not entitled to the other person's explanation or time. So I could choose to seethe, or I can acknowledge or even express my frustration in a healthy way and crack on.
